What is an End of Life Doula?
Doulas are the bookends of life
Just as a Birth Doula is there at the beginning, an End of Life Doula is there for the end. Meaning that the last months or weeks or days are compassionate, calm, natural and as normal as can be.
An End of Life Doula is there to support a person, and those important to them, with a terminal diagnosis. We work in the person’s home as well as Hospices, Hospitals and Care Homes. We are there for the elderly and those living with dementia too. Our non-medical role is to preserve the quality of wellbeing, sense of identity and self-worth from the moment we are called upon.
We are there at any stage from the beginning when a person has received the news they have a life limiting illness through to the final months and weeks, and beyond to support the bereavement and for funeral planning.
We are sensitive to practical and emotional (plus spiritual if important) needs. We are a consistent and compassionate presence with knowledge, experience and understanding. This supports those that we are alongside to exercise choice about where and how they are cared for. We facilitate an end of life that is as peaceful, graceful, meaningful and dignified as it can be. The person and those important to them are at the very centre of all we do.
Another important aspect to our role is to be available to people at any stage in their lives to share our knowledge and provide guidance on death and dying. Our aim is to bring dying ‘home’ in our Communities, as we believe it is all of our business and not the sole preserve of experts and professionals. We work in communities in so many other ways. Providing information and guidance to demystify Living Wills, Advance Decisions (known as Advance Directives), funeral arrangements, bereavement and grief support, navigating through the labyrinth of health, social care and government agencies in reporting and dealing with the legal process of reporting a death in Mexico.
We provide non-medical holistic support and comfort to the dying person and their family, which may include education and guidance as well as emotional, spiritual and/or practical care from early as initial diagnosis through the end of life transition.
Adios Amigo Booklet (Dying in Mexico)
A complete guide for all you need to have on hand in the event of a death in Mexico.
For All ExPat Permanent and Part Time Residents:
Are you aware of all that is required of you in the event you or a loved one passes away while here? There is so much to know about what steps must be taken, as well as the legal paperwork to have on hand. The whole process is complicated and must begin within an hour of death, no matter what time it occurs. It is something we all must be prepared for in order to avoid being blindsided by everything you are required to do…. while grieving.
Comfort Care & Assistance’s caregivers are there for emotional support throughout the end days of their patient’s and family’s time left together. They play a significant role reassuring, comforting, and holding hands and keeping everyone calm while a loved one is dying. It is so helpful at this stage when there is someone to talk to who can help put their life in a meaningful perspective. Every case is different as far as how and when the end occurs, though, and none of us can really be prepared for that moment. People run the gamut of emotions…relief, guilt, pain, gratitude, etc. Bringing in a person experienced in bereavement can be a godsend to help the family work through whatever comes up for them. Whether it’s just a conversation about the meaning of the patient’s life, or to reflect on painful and wonderful moments of the person’s life. We currently have three Grief Counselors available to be there for you. Every death requires a transition to life without them. And it can be very overwhelming to handle all that has to be dealt with immediately afterwards. Bereavement Counseling is a wonderful help at this time.
*If you are grieving please do not hesitate to call for help. We have experienced bereavement counselors who can really help you through the pain and loss. Reach out to firstname.lastname@example.org.